Welcome .
This is the beginning of my new life.
After seven years of marriage it has ended, and we have parted ways, sold our huge house and moved on.
The feeling is one of happiness, relief, joy but at the same time an ounce of failure does creep into the positives.
I have just purchased my new house, which i will call the funky abode. It is not a mansion but it is a little funky and it means that i can do anything i want in it - my first purchase was pink towels. The theme i am going to build on, for this funky abode, is hearts everywhere - it is going to be my house to rebuild my strength and learn to love again.
I have the most delightful three year old little girl who is in my custody, although Mr Deceitful and i are amicable she comes and goes every second weekend and every times she needs a dad injection, after all no matter what we have gone thru he will always be her father and i will never be able to take that away from her, just as long as he promotes his positives traites on her i will be happy.
It has been two weeks in the funky abode and have to say the first week was the most stressful. What i thought would be a happy occasion was actually the reverse. Setting up telephone accounts, power accounts and all the likes and then having to deal with many many boxes was another distraught occasion. The biggest mental challenge has been down sizing, going from a four bedroom mansion to a 3 bedroom townhouse - mentally the most challenging. I am a woman of very driven and high goal setting achievements, i look at this as a bit of a backward step, but after a few wines and a few cries with my wonderful friends and family i realise that the bank and i own the house, it is mine mine mine to do what i want and to bring life and personality to it - it is up to me to make it a success. i do not see this as my place of permanent residence - eventually my goal is to upgrade, but lets get sorted first i say !!!
The reason for my name "independently funky mum" is because i dislike the word "solo mum", blah that leaves a horrible distaste in my mouth, and i think any woman that can bring up a child/ren on their own deserve a funky title - its gonna be tough work, but hopefully this blogging site will be my release for my anger, my highs, my feelings and just to let it out and get your support and feedback, and so one day i can sit back and laugh at this journey !!!.
Please sit back enjoy the journey, please make comments and give me feedback, thanks for being part of my journey.
Love of Love , The Idependently funky mum
